A Basic Beginner's Guide to Sex Toys

A Basic Beginner's Guide to Sex Toys

Once considered a secretive and shameful indulgence, sex toys, or as I like to refer to them, "pleasure products", are now as common and widespread as that endless collection of plastic shopping bags every single human being stockpiles under their kitchen sink.  Sex toys can now be found almost anywhere, and people are more accepting of their presence.  Although we have become more open, the universe of sex toys can be completely overwhelming at first.  At Bedside Boutique, we are here to hold your hand and walk you through it.  Whether you want to start out slow, or dive right in, here is a bit of helpful information for both curious couples, and solo explorers alike.


Searching for the ultimate buzz?  Vibrators are the perfect first step in experimentation for those who are open minded and sexually curious.  With an almost unlimited supply to choose from, vibrators range from mini finger vibes, to full blown massagers, to bendable vibrators, and even specific g-spot or clit stimulating versions.  Speaking of, a vibrator has the ability for both clitoral and g-spot stimulation either simultaneously or separately.  This, coupled with the wide variety of different shapes, sizes, colors, and designs, vibrators are undoubtedly the most popular sex toy around.


Don’t worry if vibrators aren’t your cup of tea, if you prefer complete control in pleasuring yourself, dildos can really hit the spot!  Dildos come in a multitude of shapes and sizes, and many are shaped as a penis (for obvious reasons).  They are perfectly contoured, often with veiny surfaces, to deliver intense internal stimulation both vaginally and anally.  Unlike vibrators, they only move as much as you move them yourself.Thinking of taking your pleasure play to another level?  Some dildos include suction cups for total hands-free use.  These are ideal for the shower - believe us on this.When you're ready to explore in greater depths and have “taken in” (pun intended) the initial options, there's an entire wild world out there including make your own, dual penetrators, double ended dildos, strap-ons, and even entire forearm replicas.  Simply keep in mind to lube up first!

Cock Rings

A cock ring is worn either at the base of the penis behind the scrotum, or can also be worn around just the shaft of the penis.  It is the perfect accessory for couples for several reasons.  Not only does it add pressure, providing unique and satisfying sensations of tightness, it also restricts blood flow helping to keep erections stronger for longer.  Cock rings create the illusion of greater length and girth and are also able to stimulate the clit in the process.  Everyone wins!

Anal Toys

For those of you who get excited at the mere thought of backdoor action, but don’t know where to begin when it comes to incorporating sex toys into your bedroom play, this section is for you.  What's more, anal toys are ideal for both solo and couples play.

Anal beads, a set of small, medium, and large beginner’s butt plugs, and lube, lube, LUBE are sufficient items to start with.  Anal beads are often composed of a string of several different sized beads, usually starting off small, then increasing in size, ending with a loop or handle for easy removal.  Because the smallest spheres are no larger than a single kernel of corn, they are often less intimidating than other anal options and chosen for first time experimenters.

Although generally larger than beads, butt plugs, or probes also start off thin and rounded, and gradually increase in size towards their flared anchored base.  In addition to these novice items, in the hunt for anal toys, you may also come across vibrating plugs, prostate massagers, and douches or enemas as well. 

Nevertheless, whether you decide to try your hand in anal beads or a plug or probe instead, an important necessity you cannot forget when it comes to anal play is lube, and lots of it.

Male Masturbators

Keep in mind boys, you have options as well.  From body mold masturbators, to dolls, and even pocket masturbators, there are plenty of sex toys manufactured specifically for you.  We’ve already briefly skimmed over two main male toys:  cock rings, and anal toys, yet there is still one more essential toy tailored to please the erotic desires of the male species.  Male masturbators, if you have yet to discover them, will be your closest companion yet.  There are skin-delicate sleeves, vibrating strokers, tunnels, and pleasure cups which will bring you to absolute ecstasy, entirely hands-free.


BDSM is an entirely different ball game to play, so for the sake of staying on topic, and maintaining focus on keeping this a beginner’s guide, I will keep this section short and sweet.  Amateur bondage toys such as ticklers, blindfolds, and cuffs are a fun and safe approach to exploring boundaries and limits, and giving comprehensive control to your partner.

Whether you’re looking to purchase your very first sex toy, or have been in experimental mode for quite some time, and are simply researching and hoping to better acquaint yourself with different options, I hope you’ll find this list helpful and informative.  

Until next time, may your sex toys be strong, and your batteries be plentiful.  And as always, keep it surreal.  -- K

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